Warming up to a cold-sick spouse
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In couple's therapy, a common finding is the pairing of an aloof, distant husband who is difficult to engage, with an anxious, deprived wife who desperately courts his attention. Often labeled as a ''cold-sick and love-sick'' pair, they provide a challenging task for the therapist. The wife usually appears to be dependent and hysterical, while the husband's neurotic style allows him to appear relatively thoughtful and logical. The relevant literature usually infers that treatment difficulties arise from the confusion, anger and hysteria of the wife. However, the husband's distant style often masks a desperate dependency which is very similar to his wife's. If approached correctly, a love-sick spouse can be more easily engaged in the therapeutic process than her well defended, emotionally closed-off partner. Four therapeutic vignettes demonstrate the usefulness of a strategic intervention in which the therapist moves back and forth between partners and between the role of interpreter, protector and supporter, maintaining a balance in which neither spouse is left unattended for long. Empathizing with both partners insures that they will both begin to feel less hopeless and will come to feel that their individual concerns have been heard. The five-stage intervention course entails engaging both partners in the treatment by: (1) calming the love-sick partner; (2) reaching out to the cold-sick spouse with empathic understanding of his self-protective distancing; (3) teaching both partners that they often use different strategies to deal with similar feelings and wishes; (4) interpreting the nature of their wishes and fears; and (5) redirecting blaming patterns by making both partners aware of their mate's needs, wishes, fear and pain. (Consumer Summary produced by Reliance Medical Information, Inc.)
Publication Name: American Journal of Psychotherapy
Subject: Psychology and mental health
ISSN: 0002-9564
Year: 1991
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New host for a specialized brood parasite, the Screaming Cowbird
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The Brown-and-Yellow Marshbirds are an effective host for the brood parasite, Screaming Cowbird, and rear the Screaming Cowbird chicks successfully. The Screaming Cowbirds are able to synchronize their egg laying with that of the Brown-and-Yellow Marshbirds. The reproductive success of Screaming Cowbirds is similar using both Brown-and-Yellow Marshbird and Bay-winged Cowbirds as host. However, Screaming Cowbird parasitism is higher in Bay-winged Cowbirds nests as compared to those of Brown-and-Yellow Marshbirds.
Publication Name: The Condor
Subject: Biological sciences
ISSN: 0010-5422
Year: 1996
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Democide and disarmament
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The issue to restrict small arms ownership may encourage governments in disarming their own people and would claim the right to arm governments and dissidents in other nations. However according to Aaron Karp the concept public disarmament can be used as an intellectual exercise but not for policy making.
Publication Name: SAIS Review
Subject: Political science
ISSN: 0036-0775
Year: 2003
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